Joy can be “terrifying”: How To Practice Gratitude

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“Cultivating gratitude and joy: “Letting go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark”

I thought I had worked out how to feel truly grateful and not take things for granted, but I think, after watching this video, I have been kidding myself. Do I really enjoy those moments of happiness fully? Or does that niggling thought of, “what if this never happens again… what if I don’t see them again… what if, what if” creep in and take over? Those feelings definitely hover around my mind in moments of happiness and joy which means that I’m not truly enjoying the moment.

I can’t believe just one YouTube video would make it so crystal clear and give me a new outlook on how to practice gratitude.

Dr. Brene Brown and Oprah discuss Dr. Browns book, “Daring Greatly” and highlight the “Guideposts for Wholehearted Living”.

No. 3 – Cultivating gratitude and joy: “Letting go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark”

Dr. Brown explains that “when we lose our tolerance for vulnerability, joy becomes foreboding” – because we are scared joy will be taken away if we don’t acknowledge the other, darker thoughts; meaning that we never fully LEAN INTO those joyful moments, just in case we never have it again.

Even writing that out helps it make sense to me. If we NEVER fully allow ourselves to feel joy, enjoy the moment, and feel truly happy, then we restrict ourselves from living a joyful life – and we do not deserve that!

“In moments of joyfulness we try to beat vulnerability to the punch”

Key Moment:

3.22 seconds in

Another key moment in this discussion was when Dr. Brown mentioned what a man once said to her about being joyful.

“My whole life, I never got too excited, too joyful  about anything – just stayed in the middle – that way, if things didn’t work out I wasn’t devastated and if they did work out it was a pleasant surprise.”

Writing and reading it back on here has really clicked with me and it seems so silly that many of us (including myself) actually follow his way of thinking without realising.

Then Dr Brown mentioned that after this man lost his wife in a car accident he then said to her:

“the second I realised that she was gone, the first thing I thought was, I should have leaned harder into those moments of joy because that did not protect me from what I feel right now”

Dr. Brown mentions that some of us seem to dress rehearse tragedy, to protect and shield ourselves from bad things BUT this is not the way to live a full, happy life. Instead, all we need to do is practice gratitude.

“Once you actively practice gratitude you go through the day looking for it.”

It made so much sense when she mentioned that a lot of people, after losing someone they love, actually miss the ordinary, smaller, day to day things, rather than the extraordinary things.

So really, it can be so easy to practice gratitude everyday, from the moment you wake up to the people you meet throughout your day. The ordinary things in life should not be taken for granted and by actively practicing gratitude and thinking positively you can then enjoy those moments of joy and happiness fully – shutting out those thoughts of fear and negativity in the background.

It sounds so simple – and it is – but I think for myself and maybe you too, it does take time to train yourself, to slap those negative feelings in the face in moments of joyfulness.

Hope you get as much out of the video as I did. Enjoy!

NEW! NANABAR London: “like ice cream, but good for you”

“NAUGHTY BUT NICE-CREAM”

“like ice cream, but good for you”

London’s first made-to-order Nice Cream bar – 45 Charlotte Road, Shoreditch.

OPENED: SATURDAY 1ST JULY


After popping to London for a few errands, walking through Shoreditch where I used to spend a lot of time visiting my sister, I stumbled across a new foodie hot spot.

It caught my eye as I saw a photographer outside taking photos. As I glanced in I could see people sat on giant wooden steps (picture below), loud music blaring out and a buzz of people inside. I glanced at the sign and read MADE WITH FROZEN BANANAS, before reading on I immediately thought back to my old uni housemate showing me how she made healthy ice-cream by freezing bananas and blending them. I remember it tasted amazing – thanks for introducing me to it Alice 😉

Then, reading on, I realised they were selling just that!

The second time I walked past that day I popped in to explore. I walked up to the counter and saw a sign saying ‘Today’s flavour’… it said mango (I hate mango). As I couldn’t see any other flavours I thought, ‘Naah, I’ll give it a miss’, but as I was walking out the founder Justin caught me and asked if I needed any help. I said I didn’t like mango so I wouldn’t be a fan and I couldn’t see any other flavours.

He went on to tell me that they serve one flavour per day and reassured me that they had other great flavours to try too. I started to get interested when he asked if I liked chocolate (how did he know), and mentioned that the Sunday flavour, HAZELNUT TART, is basically Nutella. (Now I’m interested!)

Justin told me that all the ingredients they use to make their Nice Cream are Natural, Organic & 100% Plant-based and persuaded me to try the SATURDAY FLAVOUR:

Mango Nice Cream topped with Coconut flakes, Pumpkin Seeds & Broken Brazil Nuts, served with a Medjool Date caramel.

You can also add extra toppings like chia seeds, nut butters or granola. I chose to add peanut butter, thinking that at least if I didn’t like the other flavours I could just eat the peanut butter. Whilst I was waiting for my order I thought, “How will it be successful… with just one flavour per day, and with people like me, who have a MASSIVE sweet tooth for all things chocolate – how could I be converted to a fruity, healthier option?”

BUT…

(you knew this was coming),

…after trying a pot of flavours/ingredients that don’t usually take my fancy I was completely surprised! I don’t like mango, or coconut or brazil nuts but I devoured the whole pot!

 

Homemade caramel made out of medjool dates

After thinking that I wouldn’t like any of the ingredients I was so surprised that I loved every single mouthful. 

It was refreshing and moreish, and even after eating a large pot of Nice Cream you didn’t feel over indulged on sweetness. It was just the perfect amount of sweet, icy, deliciousness!

The NICE-CREAM (as they like to call it) had the lightness of sorbet and the yummy, moreish-ness of ice-cream.  As you tucked into the flavoured nice-cream you occasionally came across a lump of frozen banana, adding a nice refreshing crunch.

You also get a substantial amount of nice-cream for your money, and it is definitely enough to share between two!

PRICE
One pot of Nice Cream £5.50 (with no added extras)
Upgrades:
– Granola 50p
– Regular shots: Chia/Flax/Peanut Butter 50p
– Premium shots: Hemp/Almond Butter 75p
 
 
So far I’ve tried one flavour combination and it was delicious. On my way to London again today and I’m definitely popping back in to try the MONDAY FLAVOUR SENSATION. 

Check out my Instagram to find out what flavour I try next >> @katiewoo_